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Do you need spiritual practice?

Okay good evening everybody I don’’t even know where we start. I think it just as myself falling into the Samsara’’s waters so have all other sentient beings is that right? okay thank you empower me to see this and really to practice Bodhimind that carries the weight of freeing them. So as you know we have been talking with the foundations of all perfections and we are breaking between here and there took breaks and now I believe today everybody has the copy so there is no page number but I think it should be the second page the second page so basically in this way and how this works is the first and foremost question comes in our head is is it a spiritual practice is it something necessary and that probably everybody should think about that spiritual practice is the spiritual practice or spiritual work or whatever is its spiritual is it necessary and I think that is a very important question for everybody and to a lot of people it is not necessary because what the people wanted if you aim is to make some money and to have a comfortable life and a good health and wealth insurance so probably that if that is the goal of the individual the spiritual practice is absolutely not necessary for that person what would they do with that why is there a need there’’s no need at all and if you think a little more a little more yes that is fine but there is more than that there is behind this behind this there is problems in life there are sufferings in life there are difficulties and there is always what we want we never get it and when you want something else to get something else so no matter whatever you do so that’’s what happens so thinking those lines and seeing difficulties in life and seeing such difficulties in life is not a creator’’s creation nor is it pop up from the ground and nor is it a bang of fall from the sky so when you see those and then the question of spiritual is necessary until that it is not necessary. When you begin to see this when you begin to see that life is something more than that what you plan to do our plans sometimes work and sometimes doesn’’t work even if it works it doesn’’t last even if we try to be healthy eat the right things and drink the right things and do a lot of exercise and do whatever you do even then we die we get sick and we die so these are the indications in life in addition to that a number of people have some kind of glimpse of beyond the circle of life or within the circle of life something different than the universe what we’’re used to it so these are the people who have a very much value in the spiritual practice the others don’’t though they may like to because someone else is doing and some body else doing and yes I would like to do it and then that’’s not a fashion so it’’s a fashion yes Cindy Crawford is wearing a blue shirt so I would like to wear a blue shirt you know and that sort of style here it doesn’’t really work here so the spiritual path is, the big question do I need spiritual practice that question you have to ask yourself and you and only yourself can answer that the others give you answer if you look in the Buddhism and they will say Oh it is absolutely necessary blah blah blah if you look into Hinduism they will tell you exactly oh yes yes yes you absolutely need it and go ahead and worship Shiva and all this type of thing they will tell you and if you’’re look into Christianity you know what answer you are going to get it so does the Judaism the Judeo Christian but the truth really is the answer you have to find it yourself is there something called spiritual practice is this necessary for me or do I need it if I need it how far do I have to go how much I should go how far what will be my end of doing this this is it important once you realize once you realize there is these difficulties and then you think in order to solve this problems or in order to make ourselves free and you do want to a spiritual practice and then you have to look at the spiritual practice which is capable of delivering what you are looking for are you with me? Capable of delivering that is what you have to look and every spiritual practice may or may not be capable of delivering what you’’re looking for so once you begin to realize you really wanted to be free absolutely free of neurosis absolutely free or you want it to be sort of a subdued level not an absolutely free but sort of a reduced level is that what you’’re looking for and if that’’s what you’’re looking for then you should do a concentrated meditation just simply sitting and concentrated meditation the concentrated meditation is capable of subduing the neurosis and almost go to a very subtle level but concentrated meditation alone will not be able to free yourself completely. So if you are simply looking for that then concentrated meditation is your answer. And if you are looking beyond that and you want to have absolute freedom from neurosis and then you need the path what we are talking here1136

Look to see if you have true love compassion or discriminating love compassion.

Combination of concentrated meditation and wisdom together the wisdom develops within the people by doing analytical meditation this is absolutely true people like to talk about it oh great wisdom blah blah blah and I sit with close my eyes sit over there the wisdom will shower me it never works never it doesn’’t work I mean it really doesn’’t work that way at all both the wisdom is something that you develop within you and so developing within you you really have to have mental training of developing the wisdom without which you don’’t really get it even if you get it an hour or something very profound five minutes experience of something great experience but that doesn’’t give you wisdom it may bring you closer to wisdom but it doesn’’t work. So as love and compassion we always like to talk love compassion is wonderful and great and this and that and we all would like to claim that our self is very much oriented with love and compassion and love and compassion belongs to me we all think in that way however love and compassion is also it has to develop within you it needs the training of the mind how to develop love and compassion without which you have some love you have some compassion which is always have discrimination you know what I mean? You discriminate certain people you like to have love and compassion on certain people you don’’t really care so much to certain people and you really absolutely don’’t want to have love and compassion to certain people that is the discriminating that we have. I guess I’’ll request you to sit all by yourself whenever you have time sit by yourself and go through with your mind and see what kind of love you have what kind of compassion you have do you discriminate people do you discriminate people to some you call that enemy to some you call that friend to you know to some you couldn’’t care less you’’re not concerned so if you have that within you that you and yourself will only know nobody else will know it and if you see that then you have discriminating compassion. Right? discriminate among the subjects on which you develop compassion. Some people may like to have better compassion to Caucasians some people may not like to have compassion to blacks or Asians or Hispanics. So you know the human mind is such a thing you are surprised and if you really look within yourself you always think I have no discriminating with anybody for me everything is fine everybody is wonderful we think that way in one in another line if you started going through with your own mind and you started putting labels on the different person every person you have a label oh yes well I can’’t care for these people because they are what ever you know or blacks or whites or Republicans or Democrats you know so we have a sort of a lot of labels that we put on and so when you put those a lot of labels in there and that is another indication that you do have restricted discriminating among the people and therefore your love and compassion will be discriminated. And that only you know if you notice within yourself you don’’t have to go and tell everybody but make a note to yourself yes I did have that and unless you really look very specifically you won’’t find it because our pride is such a powerful that all we of us like to put ourselves in the category it doesn’’t matter you know black white yellow green it makes no difference we put ourselves in that category but if you started looking in that very carefully you will notice if you have the problem. Likewise if you started looking for different people and focusing on the different face sort of imagine the different people in front of you and then started checking with your compassion to that particular person and it is a big show over there I mean it is really really big show you will see it and you automatically noticing you’’re putting label on people yes she is good but she did something something something oh yes he is good but he did something something something oh it was ten years ago this fellow did blah blah blah you know all sorts of labels we put and by seeing those labels that we put I’’m not saying you’’re putting labels is wrong it could be true it can be right however simply your noticing by putting a label in there tells you that you do have differences your attitude towards others people other human beings and there is a lot of like and dislike care and don’’t really care so you will see that these are you will see if you meditate and practice and I can keep on talking here it may not do that great to you but whenever you have time tonight tomorrow morning whenever you have time think about it it doesn’’t really have to sit down and put your cross leg and meditate no whenever you get time if you wanted to take a long long shower in the hot water and you can do it during that period if you have to wait for somebody in a parking lot for a longer period you can think about that time if you have to sit in the big line in the grocery store while you’’re pushing your cart and you can think about those times. Those are the very good times there and we have not really tapped all those times so because you may think it is meditation I can’’t do it that way I have to sit down in front of an altar light incense light a candle and do it not necessary absolutely. I mean if you can do it it is a luxury fine good but it is not necessary it is your training of the mind and watching yourself you’’re looking at your own mind and see yourself clearly by yourself so therefore so you know it’’s like a big melodrama of your own life in the form of a movie you see within yourself that is what I mean there is a big thing there’’s a big surprise sometimes you surprise you have such a thought within you you have both ways surprising good way as well as a surprise in bad way both ways it is important by yourself to see that and once you see it and then you know what kind of a person you are. That is an important point. It is interesting what happened to me I forgot the date I think it was the thirty first of last month the tricycle, the thirty first of last month and I was invited to speak in that Buddhist magazine called the Tricycle and they had an open thing going on in Central Park. New York and there was a number of speakers from morning till evening it is throughout I think I was the last speaker there. So people keep on asking me what you’’re going to speak about it and I kept on thinking I don’’t know what I’’m going to speak about it I never thought what I’’m going to speak about it and then I thought when I get there maybe there is one or two speakers before me so I could listen to them and then probably pick up from there and that’’s one of my thoughts2340

Who you are does not matter - what matters is what are you doing? where are you going?

The moment I got up there and a lot of different people came up to talk to me and I never heard anybody’’s speech except one nun there I don’’t know she was Korean or Japanese or Chinese I’’m not even sure they told me she sat there the whole day with that robe it was hot like this and then sunshine on top of that you know burning there were five seven eight hundred people in the park learning here and there and siting there and listening so she said we spend whole day today with the great suffering and sun heat and all this we spend the whole day to find out who we are that’’s what I heard I said I don’’t think I care who I am what are you talking about it can I say I don’’t care who I am and then about that time Joseph Goldstein walked by here who had already talked before so he walked by I think he was taking a walk he walked by so I asked Joseph do you care who you are? Because sometimes some people get very upset if you tell I don’’t care who you are or you don’’t care who you are is not necessary people get upset so I said maybe it’’s the New York mind New York City people’’s mind who really wanted to know who you are or what is it I thought I would ask Joseph so I started following Joseph and he’’s a tall guy and walks very fast and I’’m short and fat and couldn’’t catch him up (Rimpoche laughs) I had to run behind him and suddenly from the podium they started saying oh our next speaker is running down there please come back! (Rimpoche laughs) so that’’s what happened so that thing came up in my head because it’’s not that important to me who we are yes whoever I am I am. You cannot identify that me with the label with the name or with the family name with any name you can’’t it is the sort of temporary fix for us to identify ourselves so it was a label for identification identification that what we can use among ourselves that’’s why the name is there it is very similar to driver lessons the driver’’s lessons is A) you’’re allowed to drive but B) it is the identification in this country so if you try to search who you are you’’re not going to find it my main point is you’’re not going to find it find that this is me you are never going to find it you may think of course I know I’’m John okay yes you’’re John yes of course I’’m John Carpenter or I am John the electrician or I am John the driver so naturally you see the John is not enough then you shift to your profession or your last name and ninety percent of the people don’’t know your last name anyway like me so you shift in the profession so you’’ve been able to shift back and forth it serves as an indication that there is no certainty in that not only that you’’re born right? When you are born you are definitely born but the John did not born are you with me? No John is the name somebody will give you maybe they’’re giving you before you were born but mostly they give you later so somebody was born and that somebody happens to be called John later and so it became John so that’’s what it is so really if you spend time to find out who you are you’’re wasting a tremendous amount of time and it serves no purpose as far as I’’m concerned it will serve no purpose number one you’’re never going to find it how you going to identify me me me yes that we all know that is me I’’m me me me yes so but then beyond that it is absolutely impossible to find so therefore if you think it’’s important to know who I am a lot of people think that that’’s why I said that a lot of people think it’’s very important that who am I you know I was so in so oh my previous life I get so many people tells me my previous life was definitely a Tibetan monk oh yes very nice that’’s all I say what else can I say? Yes very nice don’’t you think so? maybe I hope so (Rimpoche laughs) so that sort of thing so really it doesn’’t matter so what does matter what does matter is what am I doing what am I doing and where I wanted to go, how am I going to make move, how am I going to push myself up where ever you want to go up to total liberation or freedom close to God or whatever whatever your goal is and how you moving what kind of person you are are you a good person are you a bad person are you a so-so person average bad good and that is important that is very important because that provides you basic foundation to measure to measure what kind of person you are are you with me? And that is only you and yourself alone can do it and nobody else nobody else nobody else can pass judgment on anybody else 3156

Watching you mind is the fastest way to change

Buddha Shakymuni Buddha says (he speaks Tibetan) unless you are totally enlightened you may know something but otherwise no one can really judge the other person because the mind and the mental capacity and the mind level of the other person is only known to the other person it’’s self him or herself not to you you don’’t know so when you don’’t know you’’re better off not to pass any judgment at all on anybody good or bad very polite way you can say oh you’’re a nice person that’’s okay very polite person people say oh you are a great whatever clairvoyant person or healer

all sorts of things people say around here anyway very nice of the person to think that way say that way and each and every human being have the capacity to heal capacity to be clairvoyant to be able to read all these are there however however if you keep on saying that you also do a disservice to the people disservice in the sense one way you look is very nice you are buttering the person but on the other hand you do a disservice is you rise their pride you rise their ego you’’re doing a service to their ego so therefore you always have to be say what you mean really that is important and also look in your self how good am I am I good or bad or average so that only if you sit down and review the neurosis that you have come up and what they do what did they do how to do they act and what did you think at that time as well as the positive actions that you took what did you think how did you perceive that what kind of thought came up in my mind what kind of action I took following the thought and how did I do. So this is how you judge yourself good or bad or medium person or average and you don’’t ever tell that to anybody else you don’’t have to announce that keep it to yourself and work on that that is the very important thing I was thinking something and I forgot. Well I don’’t remember and I’’m sorry the thought came up in my head but it was lost. I was told I should blend that to the NutraSweet (Rimpoche laughs) so watching your own mind and see your self and then knowing what kind of person you are and if you notice that you have done good and wonderful things and you have a lot of them don’’t worry about it you have zillions of good things and zillions of bad things we have otherwise we are not human beings we have to have it so when you have those and when you see the good ones notice that within you be happy about it when you see the bad ones within you then you have to think how can I avoid? How can I avoid? You know. The past experience is the only effective future guidance. Your own experience looking in that and try to change will affect you much more than somebody talking to you reading books or all this or listening to lectures or teachings or whatever and watching your previous good and bad and your feelings about that you really have to be very alert look back you know its in your memory so you started looking back in your memory 3747

You alone have to clear away your neurosis (delusions)

And they will show you your mind will show you the movie of your negative emotions and at that moment it’’s also important don’’t forget keep this picture over here and turn around once again and see what did I feel how did my mind react at that time so there you will really see either the mind is very smooth and nice and calm or rough and agitated troublesome unsmoothness and whenever you have that your mind making unsmooth and rough and roughness that is the negative neurosis if you wanted to know what is negative neurosis any thoughts anything that comes up within your head effects you immediately make your mind rough and sort of very gross roughness unkind mean wanted to harm that person wanted to overpower that person wanted to have that person under your control so whenever people say the situation is under control which not very nice statement, situation under control may be good but when you have it between two persons when you say the situation is under control it’’s not very nice because somebody is overpowering somebody that is the indication. Anyway that sort of mind any emotional thought that sort of comes these are the negative neuroses. If you wanted to recognize and then I can go on and detail it can talk to you each and every different negative neurosis it has its own little unmistakable marks each one of them anger has its own attachment has its own and jealousy has its own pride has its own ignorance certainly has its own signs. So it is important to recognize those signs recognition only you can give to yourself looking into your previous experience and see and then you will know and once you to be able to do that your spiritual level whatever it is you have elevated much higher than you think you have much higher because you really begin to see within yourself you really begin to see in you and then you begin to recognize the neurosis. If you don’’t recognize the neurosis and then no matter how much you keep on fighting against the neurosis it would be like shooting an arrow in the forest without having any target just keep on shooting it you know? So you may have a hundred arrows and keep on shooting it not going to hit anything right? So that’’s what happens so once you recognize the neurosis then you will watch them how it comes in when it comes in what does that do to you do you like it? Certainly you are not going to like it that’’s for sure each and every one of us will not like our neurosis we don’’t like our anger we don’’t like our hatred we don’’t like our jealousy we don’’t that’’s for sure and you will say it’’s true if you ask yourself the same question you’’ll say no I don’’t want to be angry I don’’t want to be under control of attachment I don’’t want to be jealous I don’’t want to be jealous all the time and I don’’t want to be ignorant we all say that and nobody will say I would like to be jealous well maybe somebody who knows so anyway when you see that when you know that then who can make a difference to that is the question who can make a difference to that so again the answer is you and yourself alone nobody can do it. Buddha can never do it if Buddha can do it Buddha would have done a long time ago and we wouldn’’t be here but this is a clear indication that we are responsible to ourselves nobody else. So since I am responsible for my own deeds good or bad I have to work. Right? Sometimes we get in some situations we get a number of different people to help you right? they can help you anything you want to except they can’’t eat for you and they cannot pee for you right? it’’s just like that here they can do anything but Buddha can help you do everything however it’’s you yourself you have to eat and you have to pee nobody else can do it. So that is the reason why the spiritual is necessary because when you really want to look in those neurosis and you don’’t want them what makes them stop how you can make yourself free of those. Only the spiritual path can do that nothing else, nothing else spiritual path does that and that also not doing by somebody else by yourself by yourself. The thousand Buddhas in Temple sitting there will not be out able to do that and millions of churches around the world and their shrines whatever they are they not be able to do it nobody it’’s only you and yourself can do it just think a little bit if they could do it why didn’’t they do it? Yes they have kindness they have compassion they have power but the power what they have is dependent arise the power what they have is interdependent relationship always the enlightened beings or whatever you call it Buddha God or everybody is always willing to help and willing to do if they’’re there but whether they can or not it depends on us it is an interdependent relationship when you don’’t give any opportunity to do anything for enlightened beings and simply if you keep on praying and burning candle lights or butter lamps or muttering om, om, om , om, om that doesn’’t give the opportunity! You simply ritualized burning a candle burning incense and saying prayers (tape goes silent) 4831

Discrimination as major cause of negative karma

Tremendous I don’’t have to talk to you you know it capacity of human body is limited capacity of human mind is unlimited the sky is the limit human mind have that and that’’s why all the spiritual practice really the good ones is only developed within your mind mind training in such a way so it proceeds in that and functions in that way are you with me? So that is the real spiritual practice nothing else nothing else what does this piece of paper do this piece of paper is taking you through all this path though it looks extremely short it says just as myself has fallen fallen in what? fallen in those neurosis it says Samsara’’s water but that is the water is the metaphor and Samsara is the Sanskrit language what you really falling is we see where we have fall in the neurosis under the control of the neurosis once you see this once you recognize that you begin to look on the other person too when you begin to look on the other person you begin to see it this person is in the same boat as me and that person is in the same boat as me look at my dear friends and I cannot separate even for an hour and look in that and they have that person in the same boat as we are right? And you look at the enemy that you don’’t want to hear about it you don’’t want to talk about it you don’’t want to sort of walk away one byway if you see that person coming. So if you see your enemies in that way and look at them they will be in the same boat that’’s what it means. So have all other sentient beings so when you look at it people and as much a problem that I have they all have sometimes they more but each and every one of them have a problem if you don’’t believe me just look back and reflect and if you have an old friend and you haven’’t seen it for a year or two or years whatever and you begin to see each other what sort of conversation takes place? Of course how are you and you look good and I look bad and you look good and I look okay and all this are usual society right (way?) and you throw them and once that is over then the major conversation what you have so and so what happened to so-and-so oh this fellow died oh yes you did not know he died blah blah blah blah blah and whatever happened to that one oh but he got sick and this and this and then had been disabled blah blah blah blah blah and then talk this and over to you well I did this this this in short if you sort of collect all this conversations and then you review and it will give a little mark a little mark saying that how much happy things that you share and how much problems that you faced how much you talked you just give a little the green ones for happiness and the red ones for problems and the whole your sheet is going to be absolutely red maybe one or two greens so that is how our lives is dominated by suffering that you know. So where does this sufferings coming from it is only from within ourselves within ourselves a discriminating people is one of the very important cause of negative karma very important cause of suffering not only for yourself but for everybody involved so if you look within you it’’s not necessarily anger attachment hatred and jealousy and ignorance is it or what discriminating human beings is ignorance anyway but if you go and look in there and they are in there somewhere but openly when you look at it I’’m talking about the racial discrimination and all this type of thing is cause of suffering for so many people including yourself and that comes out of attachment and distance we would like to put some distance from some people and we would like to get close to some people we have that that is there so when you have no reason sometimes you look at somebody and for no reason you decide you don’’t like that person right? You do get that very often and we are discriminating again a human being who are seeking joy and happiness as much as you and I are seeking. So is there something really can discriminate among the people? 5559

Real love real compassion have no agenda

From the point of people themselves each and every one of them are seeking freedom and joy and none are seeking misery or problems its equal whatever we are seeking they are seeking it is the same thing it is equal whatever we’’re getting they are getting we are not getting anything extra they are not getting anything extra its equal to recognize that is important for us when you recognize that and you have a smoothing in your mind a little bit. Without such an equanimity thinking you can never develop compassion to tell you the truth the compassion and love both are totally based on the equanimity particularly greater compassion compassion to all beings is not possible if you do not have equanimity so when you go over here the first point oh I’’m sorry am I jumping or what’’s happening here I thought I’’m reaching the Mahayana part okay that’’s right (he speaks Tibetan) I have to think in Tibetan I’’m sorry (he speaks Tibetan again) so without equanimity you cannot have love or compassion at all. Actually compassion what is compassion to us I mean you have to ask the question to yourself what is compassion and I’’m not sure what answers do you get in your head but if you think well I do have compassion when I see somebody suffering I like to help and you think that is compassion? Maybe compassion related activity or maybe compassion oriented activity or compassion influenced part. The real true compassion is is wishing those people who are suffering to be free of the suffering that is wishing strong wishing from yourself from your bottom of heart strongly wish how can I free them from suffering without limitations without conditions that is compassion it doesn’’t matter whoever the person suffering whether it is known to me or not known to me or my most dearest and nearest or my most hated enemy if you have one it doesn’’t matter should be strong enough that is compassion the true compassion. Compassion without agenda compassion who doesn’’t say what’’s in there for me and that is unconditioned compassion you need it. So how I’’m going to grow that compassion with me I don’’t even know you I never met you before I don’’t even know you why should I be concerned about you don’’t you think that? I’’m quite sure if you don’’t think you get nothing right? If you just sit there and then just sit there that’’s right but if you think you get the reason you say why why should I bother I don’’t know that person at all so I will try to do my best we will give some lip service or little gesture here in there and go right that’’s what we do normally that’’s what we try to call the compassion but actually we just simply give lip service and that also for your own sake and not for the other person sake because I don’’t want to be projected as a bad person so therefore I must do something I must stop my car and get out of it and do something if you look very carefully even the compassion what we think is compassion makes you go out of it we also if you look you’’ll have a selfish interest in there many people do many don’’t. So the true compassion should not have any personal interest for whatsoever for whatsoever genuine compassion. Then comes love actually love comes first and compassion comes second because compassion is the result of love truly speaking truly and love is love we all know that what it is right I used to call it I called last time the American mantra right? The language is I love you is the American mantra. Everybody says three times a day (Rimpoche laughs) so if you really look what is true love the true love will have no nothing carrying with that truly appreciate the person and truly wishing that person the joy joyful or happy that is true love when you go beyond that well it’’s a wonderful person wonderful looking wonderful mind great great great I must have that person for me it has going beyond it is no longer love no longer love it is attachment. And looking at the person and admiring qualities and look at them how youthful or whatever you know whatever the reason maybe I wish I know what is recommended size by body how much the chest should be (Rimpoche laughs) I used to know that I forgot so you start looking at the person and started adding up adding up to your own thoughts that person has this this this quality so I must get it I must get it and when it becomes the desire of belonging to you when that builds up tremendously then you are building attachment simply appreciate the quality of the person and you really appreciate and you really like the person you sincerely wish that person to be happy and that is love and I can’’t sort of really in the blanket we are cut it that way it is not may not be good you know maybe I’’m doing a disservice to you but anyway this is how we can see and how we can think so then when you’’re looking at that and then you know adds up adds up adds up and then after a little while your mind your emotion is build up in such a way that no matter whatever it takes I must get at that so no matter whatever it may takes I’’m going to get it right people do that don’’t they they do and if I’’m losing that person I’’m not going to let it loose I’’m going to (Rimpoche laughs) people do that and then the good ones say well I can’’t do that so I have to let it go but I have to suffer you know and not only you let the other person suffer and you let yourself suffer and put yourself what you call it depressed10620

Love compassion

Depression you know why depression because you’’re only thinking me me me me me I’’m losing I lost I’’m not getting it I don’’t get another one like this what am I going to do what am I going to do and I can’’t hold anymore what am I going to do what am I going to do that I I my my I I my my provides you depression. And if you have depression problem switch your focus from me to others this Bodhimind and the love/compassion is extremely powerful antidote on depression if you really look at it I learned that with the help of a neurological surgeon you know I studied Buddhism all my life for sixty years of my life I studied that but to know the love compassion and the Bodhimind is the most powerful effective antidote you can take it I learned from a neurological surgeon. I keep on thinking I heard that I wasn’’t sure how it works and that neurological surgeon told me because you shift your focus from me to him or her at least or others or all others or all sentient beings so what happens is you really pull the red carpet under the feet of depression that’’s what happens but by nature you go back on it and when you recognize you go back you twist that you push yourself back you have to fight that battle you have to fight because if you just keep on thinking I’’m not going to think about me I’’m going to think about others and that’’s not good enough right to form? so that you have to think constantly and focus instead of saying me me me me me what about them what about them what about them what about them what about this one what about that one and that helps. And caring for them and when you appreciate the person it’’s quality then it’’s automatic that you want that person to be happy that comes automatically if you like somebody you wish her well that’’s automatic is it not if you don’’t like somebody you don’’t really want to wish them well either that is also automatic in our human nature. So wishing them well or joyful is the love and when you’’re wishing them very strongly you see they have a problem and then it is easy for you to take one more step and say now I would like to remove that problem I would like to solve that problem I would like to separate the person and the problem that thought will come up and that is compassion poor thing was hit by a car oh I know it’’s a pity feeling and nobody wants the pity feeling I won’’t like it right? We don’’t want the pity feeling we don’’t mind having a compassion so what we talked today what we talked here to today the spiritual point looking into nicely into negative emotions and the difference between attachment and love and compassion and self-pity feelings. I guess that much was really hard I don’’t want to make you people sit too long here so I think I’’m going to its already nine o’’clock anyway so I’’m going to close my shop (audience laughs) (Rimpoche discusses Jewel heart business) There may be some visitors or some monks Tibetan monks going around dancing and they may be here next Thursday maybe maybe not so that’’s what I wanted to tell you –– so if you see something different next Thursday here don’’t be surprised and if you don’’t see anybody and see me here also don’’t get surprised so that it. Well I don’’t think I’’ll give you a question and answer because then it will be too long so I will just say thank you.11241